Considered to be an emotional response triggered by an imminent threat, fear is the greatest challenge we all need to face and overcome to create the change we want to see in our life.
Fear, if always being avoided, will become a monster that locks us up in the dark prison of our minds. It is fear that prevents us from reaching our lofty dreams or even expressing our own truths.
We hide, we run, we act stupidly just to avoid fear. The truth is, fear have full control of us because we live not in the present moment, but in the mind.
We keep thinking what’s next or what’s in store for us. But, hey, it’s time to face these fears and steer your life to a positive change where the presence of fear will only push you forward.
Behind every fear is a truth that needs to come out into the open. Every kind of fear is just a key that hides something.
Once you find the courage to hold that key and push open what’s hidden inside, you will find the essentials you need for the positive change you want to see in your life. Look at the different types of fear and find out what kind of truth they’re hiding from you.
You’re afraid of change because familiarity breeds comfort. Like a child who doesn’t want to lose sight of his mother on the first day of school, you don’t want to get out of your comfort zone because it’s where you feel protected and secured.
But as you grow older and start to see the world, you realize how small your awareness had been. Had you not let go of the sight of your mother, you would not have known another world that is open for you to explore.
If you’re afraid of change, you deprive yourself of growing, evolving, and of testing your limits. The fear of change keeps you locked up in an unhappy relationship or an unfulfilling career.
Most often, the fear of being alone is prompted by your own feelings of insecurity. You don’t feel secure with yourself because you feel you’re not good enough or not strong enough.
You have been used to relying on other people for your security and happiness. Dependence isn’t the same with sharing and working together.
If being alone is one of your fears, it only means you need to work on your self-confidence and self-worth. Once you’re comfortable being alone, you will begin to see that a lot of people are like family.
Being conditioned to get validity from others for every word that you say leads you to be afraid of standing for your own truth.
Even if you know your idea is much, much better than that of the common belief, you refuse to speak thinking others might disagree.
But being different and having lived for your own truth is a gift not anyone possesses. When you follow your own truth, you attract like-minded people who want to live freely like you.
The fear of ridicule might have started in childhood when you experienced bullying or ridiculed by your immediate family or caregivers.
As a result, you guard yourself against anything that doesn’t feel comfortable, hiding your true self. The way to get out of the cocoon you have built for yourself is to open up and be your genuine self.
Being separated from your mother as early as infancy makes you feel disconnected. As a child, you have an unmet need that needs fulfillment. This can lead you to feel separated from society or even not a part of a group.
Look into this fear and provide comfort to your inner child. It’s one way of healing yourself from the fear of separation.
Failing is not even the word; the fear of trying is. You’re just afraid to try because of the possibility of failing, which is what almost always happens.
Only a few endeavors succeeded with the first try. Most successes passed through the bridge of failures.
It’s not about winning or losing; it’s about doing the thing whether you win or lose. Besides, the biggest failures provide the greatest lessons, which are the foundation of every success.
Be not afraid to fail. It doesn’t define who you are.
The fear of rejection has something to do with the feelings of not being good enough. It’s how society conditioned us to feel.
But if you’re able to tweak your mindset a bit and believe that rejection only means something better is being prepared for you, moving on from rejection is much easier and less painful.
If you believe your lack of certain skills caused you to get rejected, then improve yourself.
But when you know the rejection has nothing to do with who you are, then it’s not for you. You’re just being urged to look for the right path that is more aligned with who you are.
If you’re not the ambitious type, you view success based on the change that you need to take and not on how superior you may become in the eyes of other people.
Change is scary because it means walking in an unknown territory. But nothing will ever happen in your life if you stay where you are.
You need to keep going and embrace success as it comes.
Pain is not comfortable. We’ve been made to believe it should be numbed down and avoided.
However, pain is an emotion just like joy, happiness, and love. It must be acknowledged. It’s okay to cry for a loss or even feel the pain of others.
The presence of pain in the body only signals that something needs attention. Without pain, we would never know that our body is decaying from the inside.
On the other hand, there’s no other feeling that urges you to look into your core and connect with your inner being than pain.
Pain is a messenger. When it comes, ask what part of you that needs attention.
Life is meant to be lived. When you fear death, it only means you haven’t lived your life fully yet. You haven’t connected to the divinity within you, that force that takes all fears away.
Death is a natural phenomenon. Anything that has life has to die.
The thought of our loved ones dying is scary because of our attachment. Letting go is painful. But it’s the hard reality of life and part of our evolution.
Embrace your life and live to the fullest so that when death comes you surrender to it with openness.
Face your fears. No one died for looking at fear straight in the eye. Instead, you become limitless when you’re courageous enough to face all your fears. Only then will you create a positive change in your life.