Let us first know what exactly ‘Unfuckwithable’ is. The term is self-explanatory but to make it clearer, it is defined as Being, Becoming and overcoming self-doubt and doubts of others.

Often we end up bogged down by the weight of questions and by the hefty task of finding out answers to doubts of either ourselves or that of others.

However, if you may, start this project today itself, to be okay with the fact that you may not know every answer, that you may not achieve all those things put on your check list, that not everything on the wish list has to come true, not all lovers will stay and well, not all ought to stay.

An Unfuckwithable is one who is hard to mess with. They are the ones who know their shit. Moreover, they are ready to fight emotionally and socially for all that which makes them genuinely happy. 

Rumi suggests,

“Wherever you stand, be the soul of that place.”

Enlightening as it is, it is a novel thought that you cannot be fucked with if you are the soul of the place. Nobody dares to disturb the centre of the structure.

In sociology as well as anthropology, humans are understood by their relation to a larger, overarching system of elements or structure.

Precisely, if you are the soul or the centre of the structure, in structuralism, your destruction will collapse the structure. Therefore, aim to become the soul of every structure and system.

Enough with the theories now! Long story short, be so indestructible and lose all poisons of your life. Only then, when we lose attachments and expectations, we become Unfuckwithable.

Be so confident and firm with what you are and do, that except you yourself no one has power to disturb your equilibrium.

Here is a list of seven telling signs that you may be Unfuckwithable.

7 Signs You Are Highly Unfuckwithable Person:

1. You know you are worthy:

“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me … is my opinion of myself.” ― C. JoyBell C.

Self-actualized fortitude is extremely vital and fuels our inner resources. When we know we are worthy and strongly believe that we deserve happiness, then we get it too. It is really that simple.

2. You focus on what you can control and let go of things that are beyond your capacities:

“In order to truly be unfuckwithable, you need to lose your need to seek validation or love from others and to judge them when you perceive that they are not giving you what you need.”  Vishen Lakhiani, The Code of the Extraordinary Mind.

You cannot control everything in life, especially how others act. However, you can certainly control how you act and react. The way you respond to a problem matters most. Our reactions are like boomerangs which come back to either reward or punish us. Choose carefully which side you wish to be on. If there are things that aren’t under your capacities to control, you let go of them and that is what makes you Unfuckwithable.

3. You use fear itself to live fearlessly:

“It’s only when we’ve lost everything that we’re free to do anything.”  Tyler Durden.

For the fearless, fears are fuels to generate fire to stand up and fight for themselves and their needs. You don’t sit back and be a doormat to situations and people. You are only answerable to yourself and you look fear in the eye and defeat it.

4. You do not seek validation, but pursue self-love instead:

“I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.” ― Rita Mae Brown.

You love yourself like your whole existence depends on that and that is exactly the kind of love we need to survive. In this brutal world, for every question look in the mirror and that reflection is your answer.

5. You practice radical forgiveness:

“Therefore, dark past, I’m about to do it. I’m about to forgive you for everything.”  Mary Oliver.

You are a confident, in-the-moment person and burn the bridges behind you. This very quality keeps you at peace with yourself and Unfuckwithable.

6. You can rattle a few cages now and then:

Well, it is always tough to swim against the tides but you are one for breaking free. Lofty, unjustified chains bother you. If rules are valid and healthy, you are disciplined, otherwise you believe in paving fresh paths and experimenting.

7. You’re a badass:

“Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.”  Anais Nin.

You have the means to create a dent in the universe and transform it. Your passion is your edge. This quality is all encompassing and you rise and transcend by being the world itself.