If you think spending time alone is only for empaths, you’re greatly wrong. It’s true that wanting to be alone is a built-in in an empath’s system, but it doesn’t mean it can’t work for you if you aren’t one.
An alone time is a necessity for anyone, especially if you’re considering to take your spiritual journey.
The prominent spiritual figures even spent days or months of being alone to deepen their spiritual connectivity.
If you think being alone is being anti-social, give up this notion. It can’t serve you.
Embracing solitude doesn’t even mean you’d give up all your social connections. Of course, not. Spending time in solitude is just the same as having a date with yourself.
Spending lots of time with people can be draining. You’re always finding ways to keep them happy, comfortable, and feel at ease with your company.
When they’re in a bad mood, you have to make an extra effort to cheer them up.
These interactions can sometimes be too taxing, and a little alone time is what you need to refresh your mind and energies, as well as compose yourself a bit.
The way to understand why things happen the way they do is to have a constant self-reflection. You can’t process your thoughts and feelings when you’re surrounded by a lot of people who get your attention from to time, unless you’re a truly reflective person.
Taking a moment for reflection slows you down and gives you clarity.
At times, you can’t understand why others make you feel the way you do.
Or, there may be some repressed emotions you’re not aware of and only comes out once you give yourself time to reflect.
When you’re with people, you’re likely doing the things they enjoy doing, even if you’re not enjoying it as much as they do.
There’s nothing wrong with that dose of camaraderie, but you also need to give yourself the freedom to do what you enjoy. And it’s only possible when you’re alone.
While being around with others is fun, at some point, it can create a distraction, especially when you have some serious tasks at hand. You can only think clearly when you’re alone.
So when you’re up for something big, give yourself an alone time to better prepare yourself.
After spending more time with yourself and enjoying your own company, you’re likely to enjoy the time spent with others.
It’s because you’re already comfortable with your own company that you’re less conscious in the company of others.
Moreover, by appreciating yourself in your solitude, it’s easier for you to appreciate others and the company they’re giving you.
When you’re alone, you’re doing things on your own. You don’t need anyone to make you feel comfortable or help you in small tasks that are within your capacity to do.
You have no one but yourself, so you don’t seek for others to interact with you. This makes you more independent and less anxious.
Everyone needs to be happy. When you’re too focused on making others happy, you may soon forget your own need for happiness, which doesn’t equate with making others happy while making your own sacrifices in the process.
By being alone, you get to do the things that can make you happy even if it meant not making others happy. Besides, your own happiness depends on no one.
We can’t please everyone. When someone is being upset by your remarks or something that you’ve done, you may end up hurting their feelings.
You keep apologizing and looking for ways to appease them.
When you’re alone, you have the freedom to be just you. You can say whatever you like without being conscious of every word that comes to your mind.
There’s nothing wrong with asking for other people’s thoughts when you’re unsure of the ways to take. It’s only harmful when you do it to avoid criticisms or rejections.
By depending on other’s opinions, you’re not being yourself.
But when you’re alone, you get to be okay to be just yourself. You don’t need anyone to validate your actions and feelings, which is a good place to start to face yourself and accept yourself just as you are.